Compatibility in marriage and divorce astrological point view
”By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you will become happy; if you get a bad one, you will become a philosopher” – SOCRATES Marriage is one of the best relationships one goes through during the life time. Divorce is a state in which a husband and wife discover that they do not have compatibility or proper understanding due to non co-operation of the other one. Divorce is the fastest growing problem in our society today. In these modern times, there are a large number of couples who don’t have a happy married life. They all face different issues in their marriages and most of them seek advice from their lawyers for Divorce. There is no classical combination in astrology for divorce. But some points need to be noticed while doing match making of horoscopes. Matching of the horoscopes of the boy and girl is important for marital bliss. Proper matching should ensure good marital life. A proper way of match making is to check the position of Moon, Venus and Mars’ position in the boy and girl’s horoscope as these three planets play an important role in making marriage long lived. Then check moon signs and ascendant signs. If ascendant lords are in good relationship it is good. Also check relationship between Moon signs in the same way. 7th house also have great significance in marriage as it is the house of union between two persons. It’s a house of marriage. If 7th house have benefic influence then it is good for marriage/married life but if there is malefic influence then it can cause threat to married life. Marriage Conflicts Leading To Separation & Divorce (between married couple and couple without marriage) The Natural malefic planets like Saturn, Mars, Rahu and Ketu are the agents of Divorce. Sun acts as a catalyst in divorce cases when either it is placed in ascendant or 7th house specially when Sun is in enemy sign and aspected by malefic then only it gives divorce else it only creates a conflict and verbal words about divorce. The houses 2nd, 4th, 5th 7th 8th, 11th and 12th are concerned with marital affairs. When these houses become weak and their lords associated with or aspected by malefics, they signify trouble in married life. When malefic planets are placed in the crucial houses like Mars occupying the 2nd, 4th, 7th, 8th or 12th house is sure sign of trouble. In Vedic astrology a horoscope with Mars in these positions is marked as “Maanglik” which means one with Martian blemish. This position of Mars signifies, divorce, separation or death of partner if other malefic influences are also there. 7th house is the house of marriage and partnership. Venus is the karaka for 7th house. 6,8,12 houses are known as malefic houses. Position of 7th lord and karaka of marriage is most important for marriage. If 7th lord or Venus is in malefic houses and afflicted with malefics, separations may occur. If 7th lord is debilitated and afflicted by malefics or in close conjunction with Sun then also separation may occur. When there is malefic influence on 7th house or Venus or Mars or 7th lord is hemmed between malefics or in conjunction with malefics then also separation may occur. 7th Lord and Venus conjunction with malefics is more important than aspect. This is not for married couple only but also for the people undergoing relations without marriage. Mars also play an important role in marriage. It is the significator of energy. Its influence on 7th house is not considered good. When Mars is placed in 1st, 4th, 7th, 12th houses it influences 7th house and if there are other malefic influences also without benefic aspect then it can ruin marriage which can lead to divorce. Mars’ placement from Venus in those houses also considered bad specially in Kendra to Venus. Alongwith this, Venus’ position in gandmool nakshatras or in Rahu nakshatras or in Sun nakshatras also add fuel to this. Saturn’s impact on Venus is also not considered good. More malefic influence on 7th house can lead to divorce. Venus in conjunction with Sun or Mars may also end up in divorce if no benefic influence is there. This position of planets and 7th house must also be checked from Moon sign and also in navamsha chart. From 8th house happiness in marriage is seen, if it is also afflicted by malefics it can lead to divorce. 8th house (quarrel, disappointment) is found in support of divorce. 8th house (2nd to 7th) is supporting houses for marriage, in addition to 2,7,11 main houses. Planets occupying the 8th house suggests involvement of secret matters, secret extramarital and sexual relationships. Major opportunities for divorce are bhukti period of Ketu, karaka for disconnection, disorientation, lord of the 12th from ascendant or Moon may also cause separation. 12th from ascendant may cause loss or detachment. A private experience is dissolution of identity during the bhukti of 12th lord if under malefic influence. It is different from the dissolution of the legal contract under the domain of the lord of the 6th. 6th house lord and planet influencing 6th house may cause the spouse behave like an enemy, conflict with spouse, agreements feel unsustainable. In KP system, significators of houses 6,8,12,10 are to be considered for divorce or separation from the partner due to disharmony or difference of opinion. But if quarrel is involved then 8th house is also to be considered. If there are more differences between the points of ascendant and 7th from ascendant, Moon, Sun, Venus problems in married life are expected. Quantum of problems depend upon the benefic and malefic influence of planets on Venus, Moon and 7th house and of course ascendant. Therefore, it is advisable to get the horoscope analyzed and proper marriage compatibility be done before going to enter for the most important and sophisticated institute of marriage. Remedies Remedies can be done for malefic influence. Remedies will mitigate the bad effects of planets. Horoscopes should be matched before marriage. Remedies, if any, in such situations should be performed properly. Actually, all these points should be taken into account only at the time of matching the horoscopes of both and before marriage. After marriage, if such situation arises, it is sometimes hard to rebuild the relationship even with the remedies unless there is some auspicious planetary combination present in the chart.